-Just Say What

I often need to rely on coffee to get me through my morning and make me last until the afternoon. Usually once the afternoon has started my body simply refuses to acknowledge that such a thing has a “nap” even exists. So as long as I hit noon at a relatively caffeinated speed, I can last. I’m not ashamed to admit it, I am completely codependent on that delicious mocha colored energy giving goodness. There are those who would say that not being able to get by on just sleep and orange juice is some sign of weakness, but that just makes me want to punch them in their starbucks. This brings up another issue; that starting every morning with an adequate dose of sweetened adrenaline can energize you, but exhaust your wallet. But the way I see it, paying for coffee will always be cheaper then court costs and fines for the collateral damages a decaffeinated angry person could accrue. The downfall that I do acknowledge makes my palms sweaty, literally. Coffee sweats, the pain in your side to the coffee bean in your cup. They are something avoidable, but I rarely have the capacity to tell myself to put down the mug and switch to water. It sort of comes down to the fact that sometimes you just don’t know when to say when. That’s the ancient phrase that we are supposed to use in a situation like this, “just say when”. But I am beginning to think it can be improved upon. Not every situation calls for the word “when”, sometimes you need more then a time. Sometimes you need an affirmation or a confirmation or a destination. Just say good job, just say yes, just tell me where you want me to be. Please don’t just say when.

Lately, the only thing my friends and I can say is just dance. I’ve hit the dance floor more then the combined number of times Chris Brown and Bobby Brown have hit their women. Note to all: never date them if their last name is Brown, observe the trend people. During these into-the-groove-expeditions I’ve seen many a time when all someone needed to do was to just say ____. A lot of the times it has to do with a person’s ability to just say no, to the next round of shooters and cosmos. Other times problems could have been avoided, if they had said they are just unavailable. And, occasionally, there are those who need to admit they are just desperate, or just pathetic. Sometimes admission is the first step to recovery, and other times it’s just a confession on a dance floor. Socially, I have many a reason to amend the “just say when” rule. Personally, I have reasons that make me want to punch the “just say when” rule right in its starbucks.

I am fairly secure in who I am as a person, despite the bad hair days and bat in the cave moments, so that enables me to just say truth. But, surprise surprise, not everyone shares this real world super power. Lately my days and nights and wee hours of the morning seem to be spotted with “just say” moments. Unfortunately no one seems to want to fill in the blank or have the capacity to admit to a limit or an interest. Now I understand completely not having the right words to say, but not admitting to something is a different matter. No admittance really does keep you out of the better parts of life. Whether it’s saying you ate the last doughnut or the fact that you find someone attractive, if you don’t say it you end up stuck in it. And that is not going to get you anywhere.

Relying on something does not make you weak; it simply means you know what you need to just say things correctly. Progressing through life it so much more then moving forward; it can also be helped along by just saying truthful things. Not speaking your mind will keep you standing still like the line at starbucks at six am; it will also only leave you just saying sorry to yourself. It can all be over, just like that; so it makes so much sense to just say ____.